Providing positive discipline for children – Part 1
Explore strategies for child disciplining and child rearing through routines and positive attention.
It’s important to explore and have an understanding of the purposes and principles of positive discipline in young children. Doing so will enable you to generate several appropriate techniques for dealing with discipline problems involving children of varying ages.
All children need to know what to expect. Even as adults, everyone feels more in control when they know what is coming up next.
Children cannot fend for themselves, naturally resulting in the initial bonds and routines between child and caregiver. Parents and caregivers make sure babies are fed, cleaned, put to sleep and given love. If they are upset, it is up to the caregiver to try and take care of the problem. The need for routine should continue throughout our lives.
We all need routine to become more compliant and trusting, and to become a “less-stress” person. It is very important from infancy and on to have regular routines, whether it is meal time, bedtime, bath time or clean up time. Children will face routines in all phases of their life, so the sooner they’re exposed to them, the more they will be able to have control and meaning in their own little world.
Give positive attention
The more positive attention children get, the less they act out for the negative attention.
Instead of always telling children what they can’tdo, teach them what they can do. A good example is when we catch them drawing on the wall, instead of yelling, “Don’t do that!” We could say in a calm voice, “We color on paper, not on the wall. Let’s go find some paper after you help me clean the wall.”
Another example is instead of yelling at the child for pulling a cat’s or dog’s hair, we should go over to them and show them how to pet an animal so we don’t hurt them. It is important to monitor young children so that do not get into things that we don’t want them to.
Look at a child’s behavior and try to understand if they are just trying to learn something or if they are doing something to make you angry. Remember: young children’s minds are like sponges; they just want to mimic us and learn. Try to set time aside for some one-on-one positive interaction with each child in the family on a daily basis.