Planning may prevent your child’s tantrums
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EmailRealistic expectations could reduce your child’s tantrums.
Could expectations be the reason for your child’s trantrum? What if emotional upheaval is how they are telling you they aren’t capable of the situation or their needs aren’t being met?
Michigan State University Extension offers nurturing parenting classes across the state to support parents in the wonderful and demanding journey of parenting. In Otsego County, these classes run weekly from 1 to 3 p.m. on Mondays at the Gaylord Department of Health and Human Services. These classes help parents learn and put into practice strategies for just these situations.
Realistic expectations help both you and your children survive every day and special days alike. Whether it’s an outing, family gathering or driving in the car, knowing what our kids can handle and planning ahead will set you up for success.
Keys to managing your child’s emotions
Staying calm
Expect meltdowns might happen. This realistic expectation will help you adjust, breathe and reach for a planned strategy with a calm mind.
Timing
Plan outings, gatherings, etc. for the time of day your kids are at their best. For example, before or after a nap or meal
Snacks
Typically tasks take longer than you expect. Being that toddlers and teens alike are often “starving,” it is likely hunger will play a role in behavior and patience. By the time you get where you are going, park, walk in and check one thing off your list you could have already have been away from home 2 hours. Having crackers, cheerios, granola bars, fruit or cheese sticks may save the day from sheer disaster.
Games and songs
Finger play songs ("Itsy, Bitsy Spider" or "Twinkle, Twinkle"), I Spy, Simon Says, etc. can be great in the car or waiting in line. It can turn the mundane into a fun interaction.
Nurturing parenting philosophy and training emphasizes attachment, empathy, nurturing oneself, discipline, expectations self-worth, and expressing feeling all contribute to a lifestyle of nurturing and positive family dynamics.
